Archive for December, 2009

Do You Hear What I Hear?

Sunday, December 27th, 2009
Singing

People Singing

When you go to church, what do you hear?  A choir or cantor singing?  Lectors reading?  A priest preaching?  Do you hear the people around you?  Perhaps you hear the babies crying or the children crunching on Cheerios.  Or maybe you hear the chewing of gum, the opening and closing of Purell bottles, the occasional chit-chatting among friends and family members.  Amidst all of this sound, however, do you hear what I hear?  Do you hear the silence?

I’m not talking about something spiritual or contemplative here.  Would that I were!  Instead, I’m talking about the silence that I hear coming from my neighbors at Mass when it comes time to sing and respond.  I just don’t understand why people don’t participate in the Mass.  There really is no excuse.  Most churches have missals of some sort that include the prayers for the Mass (and these are definitely available online, if no where else).  And, if people are self-conscious about their singing ability, they can always sing quietly or at least mouth the words.  But instead, far too many people spend their time in church staring blankly in front of them, lips held tightly together as if life depended on it.  Even some priests seem to fall into this habit of silence.  Why?

When I was a child, I went to Mass each Sunday with my mother and grandmother.  They didn’t have Children’s Liturgy of the Word at my parish back then and I probably spent a good part of the Mass playing with the bulletin or the hat clips on the pews, but there is one way that I could participate in the Mass.  I could sing.  As a kid, it was kind of fun.  Little kids love singing.  And those songs that I sang quickly made their home in my memory.  In fact, they became so ingrained that, when changes were made over the years to the translations of various hymns, I always got confused because the hymns were different than when I learned them.

With such an early experience of singing in church, one might suspect that I went on to join the choir at the various parishes that I’ve attended.  This is not the case, however.  I’ve never thought that I could sing especially well, and I’ve never had a desire to sing in a choir.  But, that doesn’t mean that I don’t sing.  I just do it from the pews.

It makes me sad when I sit in church today and see children not singing.  But, I can’t blame the kids.  Because their parents aren’t singing either.  Would if the parents did sing, however?  Could they get their little kids to be a little less bored with church through music?  The music at church might not be appealing to a middle schooler, but I don’t think little kids know the difference.  To them, singing is singing.

There are many reasons why people should sing and respond at Mass.  But, getting kids engaged in Mass shouldn’t be overlooked.  The girl next to me today stared at me as I was singing.  Maybe she thought I was odd.  Or that my singing was bad.  But, whatever the reason, I hope that she came away intrigued.  And maybe some day she’ll be singing herself.

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Something About Merry

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009

Have you ever noticed how certain words tend to be associated primarily with certain times of the year?  For example, we don’t often speak of jack-o-lanterns at Easter or fireflies in the dead of winter.  For the most part, it seems that these time-specific words fall into the category of nouns, but there is at least one modifier that also appears to be time-specific: merry.  According to dictionary.com (I know, it doesn’t sound as nice as “the Merriam Webster dictionary,” but we’re in the age fo the Internet now), the word ‘merry’ means: 1) full of cheerfulness or gaiety; joyous in disposition or spirit; 2) laughingly happy; mirthful; festively joyous; hilarious; 3) to be happy or festive.  These definitions seem like they could apply to a variety of occasions throughout the year, and yet, we really only use the word ‘merry’ to refer to one occasion – Christmas.  Just as sure as Christmas music and Black Friday door-busters, November and December are never without their ‘merry.’

There’s something about ‘merry’ that people seem to adore around this time of year. It has even become part of a religious and political statement.  I, however, am not one of these merry-lovers.  In fact, I am downright anti-merry.  Why, you may ask, do I have such a problem with such a seemingly innocuous and positive word?  Well, I’m not sure.  But I think it has something to do with my personality.  You see, I am not really the festive type.  It’s not that I’m not happy or joyful or that I don’t like to have a good time.  But, I guess I just tend to be a little more serious about things, a little more solemn.  Maybe it has to do with all of the serious things I’ve had to deal with in my short life so far.  I don’t know.  But whatever the reason, I’m not the type to dress up as an elf and lead the Christmas carols at the office Christmas party.  I’m the type that would prefer a simple candlelight Advent prayer service.  And so, I don’t like ‘merry.’

Used without permission.  Sorry.

Used without permission. Sorry.

My issues with ‘merry’ may also have something to with the connotations that the word stirs up in my mind.  To me, it smacks of commercialism and drunken holiday parties and mall Santa Clauses.  It just doesn’t seem to fit with my images of the scene in Bethlehem.  Was Christ’s birth joyous and happy and blessed?  Of course!  But merry?  I don’t know.And while we’re on the topic of holiday words that bother me, let’s add the word ‘holiday’ itself to the list.  Like ‘merry,’ ‘holiday’ isn’t a bad word in and of itself, and it in fact has a very good origin.  Turning to dictionary.com once again, we find that ‘holiday’ originated before 950 and comes from the phrase ‘holy day.’  The problem with ‘holiday’ in modern America, however, is that it, too, has a connotation of commercialism and and anything but holiness.

If I dislike ‘merry’ and ‘holiday,’ then how do I prefer to greet people around Christmastime, you may ask?  The answer is: Happy Holydays.  ‘Happy’ could also be substituted by joyous or blessed.  And Holydays could be changed to Christmas or Hanukkah and the like for individuals of certain faiths.  But, I think this phrase keeps the focus on the holiness of our celebrations without stripping them of fun or joy.  What about those who don’t celebrate holidays as religious?  I don’t know.  I hope that in some way all people can find holiness, or at least giftedness,  in each and every day of their lives.

So, Happy Holydays to you all.  And you can still be merry if you wish!  I won’t complain too much!  :-P (more…)

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